It’s amazing the anxiety that’s felt from being cheated on in the past and having to deal with the intuition of a broken heart that’s been amended by the same person. I used to worry anytime he took his phone out, millions of questions would fly through my head. None of which I’d take liberty in actually asking leading him to believe that I’m not insecure or worried about what he does in his own personal time. I had to let go of this thought process, I had to make a choice, to trust or not to trust, I chose to trust–Again.
Not the best decision after I have chosen to trust again, more than 3 times. The outcome was never worth my thoughts of what Loyalty deserves.
One thing I’ve learned about being in a long term relationship is that you have to accept the good with the bad. If there is no trust, you have nothing. You either trust them not to betray you or you don’t. And if you don’t, then you need to walk away, If they love you they will follow and not give up. Negativity can easily be spoken into the picture if you let it be seen, but if there is nothing to truly be negative about and only so many things to be grateful and humble for then you’re going to have relationship problems.
Even so, Being grateful, Humble and consistently optimistic in situations can prove to be tumultuous more often than not. Intuition is key. You can only make yourself happy.
It’s important that you trust your man/woman and believe that they trust and love you. Once they betray your trust is when you can go through the hell of worrying and being suspicious, not to mention hurt. Until that time, why stress?
Your SO needs to be able to understand you and how you operate. And you should always be able to voice your concerns in your relationship and your SO should be understanding and try to fix and compromise with you and what you have going on.
Long term relationships can only last if there is a strong will to survive all odds and believe in each other. Both parties have to want to be together more than they want to drink a glass of water. They have to prove it to each other over and over again. It’s important that there is a compromise, Trust, Loyalty, Perseverance, Communication, and Respect.
People think that divorce is OK and that it’s alright to break your marriage vows and I can understand marrying someone who completely changes but why not spend 7 to 10 maybe even 15 years before you marry someone that you don’t really know?
I’ve always said “If you haven’t seen her go through pregnancy and childbirth, Drunk, or Broke then you don’t know her ” Same goes with men. Love is not all there is to a relationship and It’s important that you don’t rush into something that could easily fall apart because you didn’t take the time to build a good foundation.
I had to teach myself I had to change the things I wanted to change about myself that I knew would benefit him in the long run and as did he changing things about himself to benefit US in the long run.
In the long run, I left him, because he was not mine to keep. As I was not his to keep, even though we brought two beautiful young lady bugs into this dimension.
Thank you for reading ..